What age is acceptable when one is dating an older man/woman? One may think age matters, and one may think maturity and experience make the difference. I deemed experience, and maturity constructs a difference versus one’s age. One may consider oneself a veteran because he/she has experience in relationships but lacks maturity. Also, age may be a factor in why he/she lacks experience such as the age of 21 because as a person becomes older he/she learns about the experience. My question is, is it allowed for an individual to date a person who is 20 years older? Are there limitations on experiences? I don’t deem there are limitations to experience. Also, as long as one is alive he/she is going to experience life differently. If a person dates someone who is 20 years older than he/she, it is considered a learning experience. and the next chapter in their life. Yes, life experiences are considered chapters and each individual can write a chapter from every experience that transpired in their life good or bad. This is why my viewpoint is different from others when it comes to dating someone older. Reminisce on your life, and think about the different situations you’ve been involved in. How did that experience help you develop? If a person is honest with themselves he/she will view how their past experiences have shaped them to become who they are currently. Every opportunity/experience is similar to building a resume. Think about the first time you started working. How did one start building their resume to be what it is today? One builds their resume through experience in diverse jobs. Now it is understood from a different perspective when it comes to dating an older individual who has experience under his/her belt there are advantages.
Actually, in the past, I have built my own relationship resume from past experiences, and it has helped me to become a better individual and wiser from a relationship standpoint. I’ve learned and whoever came into my life learned from me, therefore both of us have built our resumes. The only way for one to become a better individual is to experience life because each individual is different, therefore; life experience is different. If one is in a relationship and isn’t being challenged he/she is lacking the ability to learn and become a better individual. We are supposed to learn from each other “Each one teaches one”. One’s focus shouldn’t be on a person's AGE but on what that person has experienced during his/her life span that will make that individual better. I don’t believe age is a factor after the age of “21” because we all do not experience life the same. We all come from different backgrounds, therefore; one experience is different and it doesn’t matter after the age of “21”. There are always going to be those who are not in agreement with my opinion but their opinion doesn’t matter. Some people seem to always live their lives for others' approval. I think one should cease living their life for others and live their lives to make themselves happy. I think it is one factor why there are so many depressed individuals currently. I deem if one lives their life pleasing to their own self it will make that individual happier. I’ve learned there aren't pleasing others but it’s pleasurable when you are pleasing in God's eyes of life growth, and development. One may not be where he/she wants to be but he/she isn’t where they used to be….Keep living life and persevering to learn regardless of the age difference because a person is building their own resume for a better quality of life.
Kimmie Merritt
7/2/16
