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Tuesday, April 12, 2016

DEPRESSION IS ON THE RISE PART II

Currently, there are millions of people struggling with depression and are unaware how to cope with this disorder. Yes, depression is considered a psychological disorder. Millions of people walk the street with some sort of depression.  Also, depression has several names but are classified as such “depression” (e.g. major depressive, unipolar depression, and clinical depression to name a few). A person may convey he/she are depressed without comprehending the details of what he/she are experiencing at that point, and time. Depression takes on an entire meaning by itself, for example, loss of pleasure or interest in day to day activities, mood declines, and it may last longer than expected depending on the individual severity.  Depression is used lightly without acknowledging the changes that take place in a person’s life when he/she are struggling with this disorder.  When I had conveyed depression is taking lightly, I meant that others never seek professional help to learn methods to cope. On the other hand, a person allows this disorder to consume them to the point that their life alters for the worse.

Furthermore,  some people are so quick to say they are depressed in a situation, without making an attempt to cope or figure out strategies. It appears so easy to give up on oneself versus challenging oneself via bringing the best out of oneself. In life, there are going to be situations that  are going to challenge the belief, religion,  ethics , intelligence, and fundamentals  aspects to the point of no return. However,  a person has to fight the good fight of faith and persevere.  What would have happened if Martin Luther King Jr, simply gave up on the challenges he came into contact with? Where would we be as a people  (black/white)? Yes, in life there are going to be roadblocks and obstacles to the point that a person senses he/she doesn’t have the fight in them. A person has to believe that every situation he/she comes in contact with is just a TEST. Did you past your the test? A  mind is a terrible thing to waste, therefore; when depression sets in a person aren’t in control of their thoughts process but he/she are allowing their thoughts to be in control of them.

Just imagine in the era of Martin Luther King Jr, if the men and women weren't robust mentality where would we be today.  It is because of their strength mentally each of use has free will. Leaders are not born but made, and for person's to become leaders in life or in someone else life, he/she has to be durable.  A person mental capacity have to be like a time X watch such as “take a licking but keep on ticking”. When a person is in a situation, and the outcome isn’t what he/ she expected, it’s alright because a person has to look at it from the perspective as it being a learning experience. It’s considered the next chapter In a person’s life called “YOUR STORY” and guess who is the author YOU. You see how  it wasn’t  viewed from that perspective. Every situation or circumstances a person come into contact with is the  next big chapter in his /her LIFE, and this is when a person keeps a Journal. Write down every waking moment when  something has/had happened in their  life, and it doesn’t matter what transpired. Write, write, write.

This is why when some people seek counsel, and when he/she are struggling with depression their therapist instructs them to keep a journal. When a person is dealing with life situations/ circumstances and keeping that ordeal bottled up inside it triggers them to become depressed because there aren’t an outlet.  conversely,  if that person is able to keep a journal of the events it alleviates via writing their thoughts down on paper.  Remember,  the says “take a load off” that’s exactly what transpires when a person keeps a journal. Depending on the severity of a person depression because there are several disorders that don't requires seeking a therapist. A person simply can go through the process and overcome their depression on their own.

Kimmie Merritt
April 11, 2016

Wednesday, April 6, 2016

NUPTIALS

Every woman dreams of becoming marry once in their lifetime. Why? There are several  reasons behind the nuptials but the truth about after the I DO hasn’t been told.  Nuptials are overrated because it is the way others perceives it. Firstly, there are many who are unprepared for the novice life once they become married.  Others believe  after the marriage their life stays the same. NEWS FLASH: let the truth be told! When two people join in holy matrimony it’s not about the solo aspect but it is about two people sharing the rest of their lives together in a union.  If individuals are prepared prior to the nuptials the marriage may last, however; because some individuals do not understand the  concept of becoming married their marriages fails. There are some individuals who customs encourages them to be married, although they are not structured to be a husband or wife. Simply, because in their customs others are proactive in their lives for him/her to marry.

Also, this is why further marriages fail. Everybody isn’t molded to be a husband or a wife because it is a process and a preparation. Some may determine becoming  married isn’t for him/her but their parents insist on the marriage, and this  further exemplifies why marriages fail.  A person shouldn't encourage a person to marry when that person knows becoming married isn’t for him/ her. If a person truly believes marriage isn’t for him/her they ought to stand their ground. A person should never allow others individuals to make them do something they  will regret in the long run. If a person doesn't stand for something that person will fall for anything. That is why it is imperative for a person to have their own belief system.  When a person has their own belief system he /she will not be swayed because he/she will  be able to stand on their beliefs.

Nuptials are beautiful if those individuals have the similar concept and reasoning with  becoming married. Also, it vital to have chemistry before a person marry because that will help them sustain throughout the marriage. When a person become married and allows God first, spouse second and family last their marriage is destined for greatness . Also, when a person is able to think selfishness,  and think as partners or a team it makes the union satisfying for both individuals.

Furthermore, to be truly in love with your mate is a great feeling because there are many temptations, and when a person is tempted the loves he/she have for their mate will surpass that temptation.  When a person loves unconditional he/she are able to persevere through the worse times  in the marriage. There may be times when there may be worse times before a union may see better days, therefore;  this is when the unconditional love take precedence  to make the union stronger.

Actually ,  it takes two to make any marriage work.  One person shouldn't be fighting to keep the marriage together, and the other is watching the marriage go in a downhill spiral. Therefore,  if the other person  has given up the marriage has already ended. Should a person fight a losing battle in a marriage ? To be in a marriage unhappy, and fighting  to keep the marriage together is hopeless because that person who is fighting has already lost the battle without even realizing. That individual might as well cut his/ her losses because to be in a marriage alone is the worst feeling ever.

This is the only life there is because tomorrow isn’t promised, therefore; never allow anyone to control your happiness only you can control your destiny. The battle is not your it’s the Lords.

Kimmie Merritt
April 6, 2016