THE HAVES & THE HAVES NOT

There is some individual who was raised with morals, values, and self-respect subsequently there was an individual who was just raised without principles.  What are the differences? That individual who was raised with morals, values, and self-respect is referred to as THE HAVES. Consequently, that individual who was just raised without principles is referred to as THE HAVES NOT.  Why are they referred to as such because THE HAVES were educated to distinguish THE HAVES NOT when they are approached by those with their pants saggy because it senses some sort of Ignorance?  Also, it displays that some guy doesn’t have the capability of presenting themselves in the company of others. This concept is extremely important to that individual who is planning to parent children.  Why? When individuals have children the parents are the ones who are supposed to teach their child how to present themselves respectfully in the company of a woman. It’s the parent’s responsibility that their sons are respectfully presenting their selves versus wearing their pants sagging.

There is a disconnection when parents accept this sort of fashion trend from their sons and encourage their behavior by permitting it. Furthermore, if parents accept this kind of fashion trend then the children will never comprehend the downside such as health issues when they are up in age. When these youngsters become older they are going to have to deal with having terrible posture because of the fashion their legs are situated when their pants sag. Moreover, these youngsters will suffer from hip deterioration, also dilemmas with their lower back. Is that what you want parents for your children?  In life, there are always causes and effects, and because they do not wear their pants in such a manner it is going to cause health issues long-term.  Also, there is no turning back from these youngster's body disfigurement. This is why parents should be active in their son’s lives and give a damn about the damage when their sons are wearing saggy pants.

In addition, children will be children, thus; if parents do not educate them how are they supposed to learn, and teach their children. It is said that children are our future but it is unforeseen because some children aren’t educated, and some children are irresponsible and without the proper guidance. Attention: THE HAVES, become very cautious of the HAVES NOT. Do not accept anything that comes your way, and become extremely aware of what you are seeking from any guy. If THE HAVES NOT parents are not educating them about ethics, therefore; he will not be able to measure up to you-THE HAVES. Moreover, many things are acceptable for males but are unacceptable for females. This is a double standard because if something is acceptable for one it ought to be acceptable for the other.  I think if individual become educated on the history of saggy pants subsequently a change may be a probability because some individual transforms to make certain things their lifestyle.

Furthermore, for changes to transpire Congress will have to get involved, therefore; forcing a change such as ticketing THE HAVES NOT that wear saggy pants in public. If it has to come to that for change so be it because this has been excessive for too long, and the damage is already done from a health standpoint. For those who have an open mind, think about the millions of hip replacements that are going to take place because of the HAVES NOT wearing saggy pants. In fact, hypothetically the price of hip replacement is 30,000 simply imagine THE HAVES NOT that wear saggy pants having this surgery performed on them. “ching, ching, let the cash register ring”. That’s a lot of surgeries, and money spent on each has not, therefore; the doctor's benefits again when hip surgery is performed. Actually, the longer it is permitted for THE HAVES NOT to wear saggy pants meaning further hospital claims and the doctors get richer at the HAVES NOT an expense. When is the time going to come when others stop being a part of the problem and be a part of the solution?

By Kimmie Merritt

March 24, 2016

THE CHEATERS CLUB

PART 1
A person may have been in a relationship in the past, and that person may have experienced a cheating partner. Now, this person who was the victim vows not to allow another man/woman to cheat on them ever again. A person may permit themself to become involved physically but not emotionally in the next relationship.  Also, a person may become connected to that individual but just to the point that a sexual relationship develops.  Actually, a person may become involved with numerous persons sexually without any attachments. The other person may think simply because they have a connection with that person he/ she may be in a relationship not realizing it is only a sexual relationship. This is considered having mixed signals because one person may feel that he/she may be in a relationship with that individual without realizing it is not an exclusive relationship. After having sex with a person extensively a person may or may not become emotionally attached but this depends on the individual.  This is where confusion plays a part in sexual relationships.  A person should always be precise in what he/she is seeking in any relationship. If a person just desires a sexual relationship subsequent articulate it. Don’t allow a person to assume sex means he/she is in a platonic relationship because there are an individual who is having sex, and deem having sex means a person is in an exclusive/serious relationship. I think people are not sincere after it is all said and done. When a person is sexually involved with someone a clear-cut understanding needs to be addressed such as I am or am not interested in a relationship I simply desire a sex partner nothing more.

Currently, people do not inquire if dating is in the present or future they are under their own presumption. People simply assume because they are spending time collectively, and having sex he/she or dating.  What happened to ask a person if he/she wants to date?  This is why individuals become confused because of mixed signals.  In fact, after spending time with a person he/she should inquire where he/she stands in the relationship. A person does not want to spend quality time with a person to find out later that his/her intentions are not to become more than a sex partner. This point is very important because it will determine if that person is worth the time.  Time is very important and it can be taken for granted therefore, it is vital how a person spends their time and with whom. Time waits for no one! Every minute a person spends with each other is counted because a person can’t take that time back.

When a person meets for the first time it is not clear what he/she is seeking. When meeting a person for the first time it is a proposal that both individuals are on their best behavior.  It is said a person's first impression is what wins a person over in determining if there is going to be a second date. Therefore, in the beginning, he/she will do and eloquent anything to be seen as the optimal candidate. In the technology arena, I deem it is significant to perform a background on people because this will give a person some sort of idea who he/she is becoming involved with because people are not forth-coming about themselves or their past.  A person shouldn’t take anything at face value. A person will articulate what he/she wants a person to know about them, and it may be false information. This is what I mean by telling a person what they want to hear.

There are several reasons why a person may cheat such as there aren’t listening skills in the relationship/marriage, therefore; he/she may meet someone who fills that void and listens. Following all that listening a sexual relationship beginnings. There may have been a time in the relationship when they both listened to each other. Following many years in a relationship,/married those listening skills take a back seat and aren't as significant as they were in the beginning. This leaves room for someone else to become connected and fill in what is lacking in the marriage/relationship. Also, some people lack those attributes they had at the beginning of the relationship and aren’t attentive to their partner's needs/desires, therefore; someone else comes along and fills that void.  Furthermore, couples seem to cease doing the things they used to do when they initially met in the relationship kept the fire burning and the fires have burned out. Therefore; it leaves room for someone else to fill that void that has been missing in the marriage and relationship. It takes two to keep the fire burning in the marriage/relationship, and if one isn’t doing their part that leaves room for someone. Some people are quick to cry the blues when he/she is cheated on but it is important to understand what is lacking in the marriage/relationship. Is that person doing his/her part?

Some people are so abrupt to change after he/she becomes married such as lacking independence and appearance. Therefore after he/she is married to that person it is vital to keep the appearance up. If a person does not keep themself up he/she will seek the next best-looking thing that is attracted to him/her.  People should know who he/she marry because a person's past will show up and show out in the marriage/relationship because of a lack of investigation on your part. This person may have cheated on his/her exes in the past but was never forthcoming with this information. Think about it, be a detective for once in your life because it‘s your life with his person. Some people become married not knowing who they married. There is never a rationale to cheat on a person, and I think if it comes to that point it is important to express those concerns. This gives the person the opportunity to make the necessary corrections. Now, if the person's concerns fall on the death ear then measures should be taken. Also, I think before a person decides to cheat he/she should leave the relationship/marriage because simply stepping out on the person is a bad decision and sometimes there is no return.  A person needs to live a happy life with whomever because a person only lives once and demise can happen in a blink of an eye.

Kimmie Merritt

March 20, 2016

DESPERATE HOUSEWIVES

Currently, many women are seeking to become married for one reason or another, thus; the pressure is on for the men to marry them. Also, some women have a time frame that they desire to be married such as before 30, 40, or 50 years of age. Some women feel their biological clock is ticking, therefore; time is of the essence. There shouldn’t be a time frame when a woman should become married because the older the wiser, and it comprises preparation.  A woman shouldn’t jump into a marriage without understanding the entails of the partnership. Moreover, before a woman becomes married she has to take into consideration what is the expectation of a wife. Many women are hoping to marry, thus; playing the role of the desperate housewives, and the husband is their scapegoat.  For some, honesty plays a key part in accepting the truth about one’s self because when a person isn’t honest their marriage is doomed to fail.  Most people are not honest about wanting to become married. They only articulate what they feel the other person should know about them. Therefore, the husband is walking into the marriage blindfolded.  A man may marry a woman under false pretense, not the truth. However, as time passes the woman transforms into a totally different person than her husband married.  Any woman can get a husband because men are visual, however; how many wives can keep their husbands. The statistics are high on failed marriages, therefore; a person needs to be clear on their rationale before becoming married. A woman shouldn’t have to pressure a man to marry because if there is pressure it is obvious that the woman isn’t qualified to be his wife. A man should see a woman and know from the time spent that that woman is the one he desires to spend the rest of his life with. Desperate housewives are simply women who seek a husband instead of a husband seeking a wife. Allow me to repeat that for those who didn’t receive it. Desperate housewives are simply women who seek a husband instead of a husband seeking a wife. Read Proverbs 18:22.  It’s important to possess discernment because a husband does not desire a wife who is considered Desperate.

What has the cosmos come to that some women are desperate to the point that she is seeking a man to marry. Men listen up! If there are women who are seeking you to marry them RUN FOREST GRUMP RUN.  When a woman seeks a man to marry it is because she is struggling with something in her past or present life and is using the man as her scapegoat. Therefore, she deems becoming married will fill that void she has been struggling with but becoming married will never close that chapter in her life that is considered her own demons. Many marriages fail because of the false pretense concept. Some women believe it is best to conceal who they are because it is easier to be accepted. Others seem to forget that whatever is done in the dark will come to the light. When the covers come off and those lies are revealed subsequently their wife will be considered a deceiver. If a person does not have trust in their marriage, therefore; the marriage is already over depending on the circumstance.

Actually, seeking to become married isn’t for everyone just because a woman is sensitivity to becoming married doesn’t mean it is an appropriate choice.  Some people jump into marriages and regret it. Marriages aren't something a person ought to jump in, subsequently, he decides it isn’t for him/her. Some people are honest with themselves and will say the marriage thing isn’t for them, but respected for being honest with themselves. Others do try to try it, and if it doesn’t work, it doesn’t work. Who goes into marriage sabotaging it before it gets started? Marriage isn’t buying a product; try the product, and if a person doesn’t like it return the product. Marriage is a commitment, partnership, and two people making a grown-up decision to be together forever through better/ worse times. It is significant to really know who a person marries beforehand. Once a person becomes married it isn’t about SELF anymore. It’s about partnership and compromise also, divorcing family and friends such as mother, father, siblings, etc…GOD FIRST, FAMILY SECOND, and CAREER THIRD. Just in that order…

By Kimmie Merritt

March 14, 2016

CHILD SUPPORT: WIN, LOSE OR DRAW

The child support administration is a system that allows several parents to play chess with their children's lives. Several families are affected by the child support administration.  Some parents deem it the best thing since wonder bread that is the father or mother paying support for their child/ children.  Is it the only option to pay child support?  Some parents may vow there aren’t any other options but I beg to differ.   “SLEEPING WITH THE ENEMY “is an analogy of how some people have children with others not knowing who he/she is sleeping with. Therefore, a child is born because of their parent poor choices. Who should be held accountable for the parent’s actions? Actually, in life there are causes and effects, therefore when a parent takes another parent to court for child support, how is that parent supposed to react? The child/children never win in a case as such his / her father /mother will not be in their lives as much anymore or never.  The custodial parent may deem it insignificant to have the absent parent in the child/children's life for whatever reason. However, a parent can’t determine how their child/children may feel without the absence mother/father.  As a result, the parent takes it upon him/herself not to allow the father/mother a chance to see the child/children, and that should be a CRIME. In a case of abuse, molestation, rape, etc. this does not apply.

The system allows this behavior from the parent, and again the child /children suffer.  Child/children need their parents in their life, PERIOD. When children/children do not have their mother/father in their life it will affect them for the rest of their life. Who cares?  Again, the child/children suffer again.  Moreover, indirectly parent permits their poor judgment to affect their child/ children. Child support is for parents who do not claim or acknowledge their child/children from the first day of birth. Child support is not for those parents who are willing participants in their child/children's lives up to the point that the mother and father relationship ends.  Since the relationship ends the custodial parent will not allow the absent parent to support the child on his/her own free will. There is circumstance and maybe the father isn’t able to support the child at the time for example laid off a job, however; the mother wants the money sooner rather than later. This doesn’t allow the father the opportunity to contain the money in a timely fashion. This is selfish on the mother's part or vice-versa.  Many parents aren’t deadbeat dads/mom However, a parent understands when things are not going in their favor the next best thing is to tap their pockets for “child support”. CHING, CHING, CHING, LET THE CASH REGISTER RING

 Do parents really think about child support that is it will take the place of what a mother/father may give to their child /children?  Money is provisional but the love and affection that child/children desire will never be displayed by the absent parent.  Why? Some parents exhibit the behavior of narcissism, and this is their rationale and their child/children are an afterthought. Some parents need to be stopped from bashing fathers who are not deadbeats. Also, non-custodial parents need to fight back and not permit the mother/father, and the child support administration to take their dignity/pride as a man/woman away from them.  Fight back means fighting in the court of law to attain custody of their child/children.  That’s the only way to flip the script and fight for their child /children's rights especially when a parent wants the best for their child. Some parents are vindictive and spiteful, thus; fighting in the court of law is simply unfair to the innocent child/children.  When this process begins just know it will be an extremely prolonged process.  Attaining custody will not transpire overnight so be prepared for the fight of your life. It’s very sad and disturbing to take a child through a process as such but I deem it to be a parent's right to fight back. There are parents out there who do not deserve to be on CHILD SUPPORT.  Also, there are parents out there who have a relationship with their child/children, and spend the appropriate time with their children; however, despite what they have done he/she is still paying child support.    The child support administration is an outrage and their policies need to be revised because of the unfairness.   This is an injustice on their part with the child support system.  It is deemed that children experience further challenges from their parents when they consume issues with child support, and it affects them psychologically.  How dare parents put a price tag (child support) versus a parent's love for their child /children.

When is the Child Support Administration going to amend its policies so parents may have a fair opportunity to share custody justly?  The child support administration has governed by these policies to interfere and interrupt the family’s lives. These interruptions are beneficial for the child support system not for the child/children who are caught up in between. Children suffer enough at the hands of their parents because some parents think their way is the right way. In fact, some parents do not know everything because if they knew they would not cause this heavy burden on their child/children.  They wouldn’t allow their children to be tied into the child support system.  If they knew everything they wouldn’t be in bed with the enemy fighting a losing battle. Parents need to be held accountable for their children suffering from behavioral disorders. Furthermore, parents can stop wondering why their child/children are rebellious because the reason is right in front of them. TAKE A LOOK AT THE MAN/WOMAN IN THE MIRROR. The child /children are the victims at the hands of their parents.

By Kimmie Merritt

March 8, 2016

SLEEPING WITH THE ENEMY

Life is a journey, therefore; a person will come into one's life, and that individual will not know that he/she is sleeping with the enemy. Who is considered the enemy? The enemy is an individual who comes into one's life with bad intentions, and the other person will not have a clue how their life is going to change drastically. People come from a diverse environment, therefore; how one person may be raised, another may be raised dissimilar. Also, when a person comes into one’s life he/she will only articulate, and become forthcoming with what he/she wants to be known. This is why a person should be cautious with whom he/she allows in their bed. Many people conceal themselves but maybe molesters, rapists, suicidal, dead-beat dads, prostitutes, craigslist killers, etc, and are sleeping in bed with you. It seems like people are sleepwalking because he/she doesn’t inquire when becoming involved with these individuals. Everything goes, and no questions are asked, therefore; when a person's child is molested or raped by the enemy such as a person's mate, who should be blamed when a person is sleepwalking.  Sleepwalkers need to wake up and take a good look at the person who they are sharing their bed with.  Furthermore, fathers need to know who their child's mother is shacking up with because whoever he/she connects with is connected to their son or daughter, and vice-versa. STOP SLEEPWALKING…


Actually, it doesn’t necessarily have to be those in relationships who are sleeping with the enemy. It can also be couples who are married that are considered enemies too.  Couples have been married for 10-15 years and still don’t know who he/she is sharing pillow time in their bed.  A person may seem to be the person he/she desires but soon after I DO, it feels akin to a person marrying someone else. Sounds familiar! Time and time again a story as such has been told, however; it has been ignored for one reason or another.  Although a person is married to the enemy he/she continues to ignore the fact that he/she does not know who he/she married. The enemy knows those individuals who are needy, therefore; he/she uses that attribute against that same person to get them to trust him/her to his/her advantage.  God will show a person's demeanor clearly, however; some people refuse to see with their own eyes. There is an individual (enemy) who comes into other lives with an agenda to dismantle self-esteem and self-worth, and the other person doesn't recognize the enemy's craft. Sleepwalkers are always sleeping, and when he/she finally decides to walk up it is always too late.

The enemy is extremely good at what he/she does this is how he/she can carry it out for such a long time without being exposed.  Again, are you sleeping with the enemy?  On this journey called life, there are going to be pit stops, therefore; that individual that comes into a person's life isn’t meant to be in their life forever.  Some pit stops are simply that, thus; allowing him/her to find the rest of the way on their own.  Some individuals want to hold on to relationships, and marriages that were not supposed to transpire in the first place. Now, the mates feel stuck in the relationship, and can’t seem to get out establishing a prison break. This is another case of sleeping with the enemy when a person is stuck in a relationship/marriage and is unable to escape for some unknown reason. There is always an excuse for why a person is unable to escape the enemy. Anyone who is not a part of the same concept in life creating a future together is sustainable, and is not contributing to the cause, therefore; it is the enemy as well. Discernment is a characteristic some individuals do not contain, therefore; he/she will always view themselves as the victim in every situation. We victimize ourselves because we never wake up from our own nightmares, and we continue to sleepwalk.

Kimmie Merritt

March 6, 2016

WHY ME?

Molestation is a mental dysfunction that has been silent for several years. There are many people currently who have been molested but are terrified to speak out about their ordeal. A person prefers to live their life in fear instead of living a proactive life by speaking out.  It just takes one person to become proactive, and everyone else will follow. Remember when AIDS hit the United States like a flood everyone who had this disease was afraid to speak out because society is extremely judgmental, therefore; it was best to keep quiet. However, it only took one person to come out of the closet and say he/she had the AIDS VIRUS subsequently everybody followed.

Those who have/have been molested past or present are feeling similarly, therefore; he/she senses it is best to keep quiet. When a person is quiet about molestation their mind will never become free from that act. Some individual deem it is best to ignore what transpired, and he/she attempts to live a normal life.  Also, it is challenging to live a normal life after a person has been molested/raped because he/she will always revisit that experience over, and over again in their mind. Why would anyone allow themselves to be tormented in this manner without seeking professional help? When it comes to a relationship he/she will never have a productive connection with anyone because of the act. A person who molests/ rapes others for their own self-gratification is struggling because he/she was molested as well.  That’s usually the case.

Some parents know their children have been molested and are ignoring the fact. It's unfair because parents are supposed to protect their children. Also, some parents don't believe their children when it is conveyed about their being molested.  Why would any parent be in disbelief when their children confide in them. This is a factor why children run away from home because their own parents are in disbelief. If their own parents aren't going to believe or protect them subsequent who will?

Molestation/rape isn’t an acceptable behavior, therefore; to allow anyone to get away with this act is criminal. When a person has been molested/raped it turns their entire life upside down. A person may attempt to live a normal life following an ordeal as such because of some condition in their mind so he/she can forget the act performed.  Although a person may forget it temporarily their actions in the manner of how he/she lives will display some sort of dysfunction. Molestation/rape is never the person's fault but if that individual does not speak up how can the molester be held accountable for the act that was placed upon that individual.  The molester is free to further his act toward other victims.

 WE HAVE A VOICE, THEREFORE WE SHALL USE IT TO SPEAK OUT AGAINST THE SECRET OF MOLESTATION OR RAPE.

Kimmie Merritt

March 3, 2016