Friday, June 1, 2018

Abandonment

Many feel a sense of loneliness and it’s never a good feeling.  Learning how to overcome is life-changing. Many sense one time in their life some sort of abandonment such as child abandonment, marriage, friends, pastors, teachers, doctors, lawyers, etc.).
When one senses some sort of abandonment it transforms their lives if they permit it. One can alter that action of abandonment from a negative into a positive reaction by reconditioning their life event into possessing an optimistic outcome. Others may become inspired because of one’s life variations despite their life encounters. One would never comprehend the WHY as a child why their parents left him or her for dead. Right? For example, if one can foretell their future to view their life one would have lived with their parents and that life was horrific would it construct the abandonment valid. This is why I reiterate parenthood isn't for everyone. Just because you can doesn't mean you should. The first rule of parenthood is one has to present oneself as selfless not selfish. Sometimes attempting to understand why one is placed in a definite situation doesn't go well for that person who was abandoned because of his or her viewpoint of why the event transpired. I understand it is problematic for any child to discern why their parents placed others (for example drugs, men, women, alcohol, etc.) before them. I believe it's effortless for others to judge when they aren't in one stance. I am not communicating abandonment is the right or a choice in any given situation. I am articulating life happens and others deem there is no way out especially when there isn’t anyone supportive of their life.
Currently, some children are in a household that wishes someone would rescue or adopt them because of their sense of abandonment.  There are several ways one can sense abandonment and that is living in a household with parents but having a sense of feeling abandonment psychology. I deem that is the worst type of abandonment. Parents are supposed to love and protect their child or children, however, to live in a household that's detrimental is emotional and psychological abandonment. Abandonment comes in many shapes and sizes if one really analyzes it.   Never believe that one person is the only one who is struggling with some sort of abandonment because it's universal.  When one is abandoned in their mind they don’t permit others in. Also, one shelters themselves because he or she has developed trust issues. If one parent decides to give up on themselves and their child subsequently, stripping that child from conferring such as love, protecting, trust, nurture, etc. How can any child trust anyone else that comes into their life? That's a hard pill to swallow.
Moreover, communicating the title abandonment in a relationship seems to cripple the partner because of the fear that he or she may become abandoned again. Also, in relationships, it doesn't matter the wrongdoing because it becomes irrelevant, and therefore; he or she settles in that relationship because of that fear factor. The person who was abandoned has become imprisoned mentally without committing a crime. They are victims at the hands of their parents. Parents should be locked up from committing this horrific crime their child/children have to revisit for the rest of their lives.  Parent are living their lives without a care in this world. When their child or children whom she had forsaken are struggling for answers internally. Yes, the victim is deserving of fulfilling that void from a loving and caring adopted family.
 Kimmie Merritt
6/3 /18

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