FALLEN FATHER'S

In this era, who should take the blame for those “Fallen fathers” It seems hopeless for the sons when their fathers perform the disappearing act? Fatherless son’s lives are a revolving door, and the sons are struggling to discover who's going to teach them the role of fatherhood. Single mothers are attempting to do their best but their best just isn't good enough.  Again, who's at fault for this cycle of "Fallen Fathers”?  Their sons do not deserve this act of abandonment and disappointment.  Also, their first sons are a blessing from GOD, therefore; they are innocent individuals simply seeking what is rightly theirs. Is it safe to say "FALLEN FATHER” is a generation curse? In fact, maybe those fallen fathers didn't have their fathers in their lives. Is that rationale going to change the fact that their sons are struggling internally without their father? Those FALLEN fathers need to step up to the plate and be responsible for their lost sheep (sons). Their sons are supposed to be our future; on the contrary, they are fatherless without a future.

These abandoned sons are frustrated, and the way their sons take out their frustrations is to take them to the street.  In the street some proclaim to take the place of those fallen fathers, however; there is a price to pay to become street adopted such as gangs, drug addicts, alcoholics, and hustlers, etc. When their adopted fathers finished using and abusing their sons, the following detour is an incarnation. Actually, there are enough fallen fathers who are already incarnated.   Their sons do not need to be connected to the New Jim Crow (incarnation).  When are those “FALLEN FATHER’S going to stop the disappearing act?   If that fallen father had experienced the same sense of abandonment, and disappointment with their own father, therefore; why allow these recurring behaviors to transpire in their own son's life?

In life there is causes and effect, therefore; the mothers have to play the role of the mother and father because of the fallen father’s abandonment. The best way some mothers believe is to hit the fallen fathers where it hurts, and that’s in their pocket. In fact, from a mother’s perspective, the fallen fathers should be accountable and responsible, thus; collecting child support is their only option. On the other hand, there are a lot of fathers out there who do not belong in the child support system. Mother's concern shouldn't be collecting a check but a sustainable relationship that will be established from a father and son perspective. There shouldn't be a price pose on the love a father has for his son. The value for their sons should mean more than the mother's emotional disconnection from the father at that point and time.  Many fallen fathers do not believe in the child support system, therefore; to circumvent the system the fallen father’s work is off the books. As a result, their sons are overwhelmed with a double whammy believing their fathers are simply sperm donors, instead of their parents. Talk about adding salt to an open womb. When their sons are struggling with an ordeal as such it is vital that their mother becomes their support system, and inquire for assistance in seeking a therapist. It is a relief for their son to be able to express their concerns and feelings to someone who will be empathetic besides their mother.

By Kimmie Merritt
February 25, 2016