In every relationship, there is some kind of baggage accumulated because individuals encounter some type of impact from their past (for example, childhood, divorce, a loss, etc). Baggage is destined to be a part of any relationship, however; it is a component of why relationships don't sustain. Relationships may be able to maintain if individuals recognize the intoxication of their baggage‘s transport into the union. When situations transpire in life sometimes they’re out of individual control because it happens abruptly. Consequently, other situations are in a person's control such as controlling their destiny. The baggage that is accumulated throughout life is merely garbage and garbage belongs in the disposal. Eventually, if it happened in the past it should stay in the past. If someone you dated in the past cheated it is unfair to bring the same mentality into the current relationship thinking similar behavior will become known. A brain is a place that stores information, therefore; if something happens in a person it will affect them to the core, and that person will never forget nor forgive.
Some people pursue dating relationships when they are struggling with pain from their past, therefore; that pain interferes with their happiness. It doesn’t matter how many relationships a person is involved in he/she will always find a reason to sabotage the relationship. Also, a person will never self-reflect and realize it is themselves who are at fault. It is simply because when a person is unhappy and struggling with pain it is guaranteed that he/she will make that person in his/her life or relationship unhappy unconsciously. This happens when a person doesn’t self-reflect but points the finger at everyone else except themselves. Accumulating baggage is just events that transpired in life that a person never resolved within themselves. When a person accepts the Lord Jesus Christ into their lives GOD delivers them from all the baggage‘s mentality but many people do not allow GOD to set them free. They prefer to keep their mind in prison and keep past events to torment themselves until they develop some kind of psychological disorder. There are 3 million people in the United States who struggle with depression, therefore; accumulating baggage is something that needs to be recognized and dealt with instead of swiping it under the rug if a person desires to evade a state of depression.
If a person refuses to allow GOD to deliver them from past events subsequently it is time to look into seeking resources because they are available such as therapy. Therapy is an addition to spirituality because a person needs an outlet, and a person needs to learn diverse coping methods to overcome those challenges from their past. Some people think therapy is for individuals who are psychotic but that’s inaccurate. Therapy is for individuals who are struggling with life issues and are unable to cope. Furthermore, when a person continues infiltrating baggage in their life or in their relationships the cycle will continue until a mental breakdown occurs. Seeking professional help is beneficial and imperative. In fact, therapy will change a person's life for the better because in therapy a person learns to view the rationale behind their behavior, and their past events from a different perspective. Actually, if a person is in a long-standing relationship it will be appropriate to involve their partner following a few sessions so it will be understood the WHY behind the behavior. Some people are quick to judge without understanding the WHY behind the madness. These are a few ideas to support those who are in relationships that uncover the reasoning behind the baggage. In conclusion, if a person keeps attaining similar results the next best thing is to change something, and that’s a person's behavior.
.February 15, 2016
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