Relationships HYPE

Some people sense the desire to be in a relationship, however; in relationships, a person has to embed a lot of work. What is the HYPE about? Some people feel the need to be loved or simply do not want to be alone, therefore; having that special person fills the void. God created man after his own image, therefore; God created a woman so man will not be alone. Now, it is comprehended why it was planned before time to have a mate but does that mean from a marriage perspective. Some people may view this from a different perspective because many may feel there’s not a need to marry, and that it’s acceptable to be involved in a relationship with benefits.  When a person comes from a different custom marriage may be the norm but other customs feel it is appropriate simply to live together without becoming married.  Married or not a person is still in a relationship, and with relationships come diverse backgrounds some are optimistic and pessimistic. This is the rationale for why relationships are challenging the optimistic & pessimistic upbringing.  Some people are spoon-fed, and others are from a poverty-stricken background, therefore; we transport what transpired in our childhood into relationships.

 Initially, relationships go well, the enjoyment of being in the company of each other until something in their past triggers. All those pessimistic memories appear then is when a person finds out who’s who. Some people are not forthcoming about their past because they are embarrassed, and do not want to be judged. Some do change, however; many stay the same. What a person experiences in their past will affect them in their relationships if they do not come to grasp their WHY.  There is no other way of getting around it that’s why it is important to recognize what happened in the past, thus; a person can move forward happily in their relationships.  Also, recognizing will benefit the person in their future relationships because a person will learn how to cope better when situations arise. When a person masks their childhood issues without finding coping mechanisms it does not undercover the missing link to the underlying reason, therefore; leaving the womb exposed.  People should find the means to cope to make the relationship better without conflicts. Of course, there are no perfect relationships because there is no perfect person, therefore; there will be disagreements and challenges.

 In relationships, there should be sustainability to overcome challenges because if couples can sustain a relationship couples may be able to sustain it when they become married.  Relationships are what you make them. What couples put into their relationships is what they will get out of their relationships. Couples have to take the Good  Bad, and Ugly to develop growth in becoming better collectively.  Furthermore,  couples should support, and listen to each other concerns. Listening skills are something that falls short in relationships because couples are concerned about how they are feeling. Discovering the WHY behind the conflicts is essential in any relationship because without the WHY there are a lot of conflicts without reasoning. It takes a partnership to make any relationships work, therefore; getting over yourself, and how you feel plays a vital role in becoming a better team. Additionally, to grow in a relationship means to take yourself out of the moment, and take on Love,  Understanding,  Compassion,  Empathy, and Spirituality subsequently there may be discernment in regards to disconnect in the relationship.  Many may be passing by for a reason, and a season, therefore; some relationships are NOT supposed to be eternal. Marriages are ordained by GOD, therefore;  if he/she is chosen by God to be in your life the marriage will be to death do you part. 

By Kimmie Merritt
February 13, 2016